Now that the school year has officially begun, it is time for parents to
start preparing their children for their return to academia. For divorced
parents, co-parenting might often feel like a great feat, but there are
ways to make this feel like more of a team effort rather than a challenge.
Getting your children ready for the new school year will require quite
a bit of cooperation and coordination, which cannot happen if you are
focusing on the issues you might have with each other instead of your children.
Here are some tips to help you and your former partner effectively co-parent
for the school year and beyond:
1.Everyone must be on the same page: In some families, co-parents have taken to the use of weekly or monthly
family meetings to ensure everyone is updated on what is going on in everyone’s
lives. It is also a productive method for encouraging your children to
talk to both you and your co-parent, and even more useful in keeping both
you updated on their lives.
Being on the same page is especially crucial when it comes to scheduling.
A simple responsibility, such as remembering to pick up your child’s
cleats for an afterschool game, can become an impossible task if you and
your co-parent are poorly communicating. Given that communication can
be difficult even for parents with a good relationship, it can be even
more trying for those who are separated and possibly have some unresolved issues.
2.Both co-parents should be responsible for shopping: Going back to school is a major task for any family with children, but
when parents are divorced or separated, it will require a little extra
coordination. Back to school shopping includes not only new supplies,
but new clothes as well. As such, this duty should not fall upon one parent.
To make sure there are no redundancies in your purchases, split the purchases
into different categories. You might not agree on everything the other
parent gets, but to avoid any petty fights, try not to sweat the small
stuff. The important thing here is to make sure your children have everything
they need to return to school.
3.Now is not the time to address child support issues: For many parents, child support is a touchy subject and should not be
discussed around your children. Kids often use their return to school
as a time for sharing their new belongings, always aiming for the latest,
hottest thing. This can put a strain on the wallets of both parents, but
you should not blame your inability to buy your children pricey items
on your child support payments or on the other parent’s lack of
child support. There is a time and place for child support discussions
and back to school shopping fits neither of those categories, especially
if you are around your children.
4.Help your children with their daily school work and major projects: Once the school year starts, it is crucial to be involved in the academic
lives of your children and take an interest in their work. Whether they
are fast or slow learners, when your children are staying in your home,
you need to take time to sit down with them while they are working on
their school assignments. Of course, your co-parent should do this as
well. This sends your children a very specific message – that both
of you will be there for them whenever they need you. You should also
coordinate with your co-parent regarding your children’s schoolwork.
For example, if there is an important test coming up when your co-parent
has the children, let him or her know to ensure the children study diligently
while visiting. You should both know when homework is due, so are able
to make sure they always complete their assignments.
5.Attend important school events with your co-parent: In cases where parents have a particularly high conflict relationship or
have a no contact order by the court, attending school events together
might either be difficult or altogether impossible. However, if possible,
it is always best for parents to attend school events together. Being
able to sit down at a school orientation or parent-teacher conference
on behalf of your children will allow both of you to obtain important
information about your children without having to relay anything and risking
it getting lost in translation.
6.Always keep the focus on your children: It can be easy for exes to get caught up in an unnecessary and unproductive
argument that has little to do with the children and relates more to an
ongoing battle they might have between one another. Keep in mind that
letting your emotions get the best of you will not do your children any
favors. In fact, it will only harm them. Maintain your focus on them and
be as civil as possible. This is easier to do when you do your best to
not deviate from topics and decisions relating to the kids.
7.Parents should also have a backpack: Your children are not the only ones who need backpacks for school. Parents
should have a separate backpack to transfer items and forms while keeping
children out of the middle. This also prevents children from seeing items
they should not be exposed to.
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